怨恨心理

自动驾驶式怨恨是一种对”受到不公平对待”的隐性判断，它在潜意识中悄然影响我们的思维、情感与行为，使人际关系趋于对立。好消息是，这种模式可以通过练习改变——当我们学会对他人作出更富同情心的判断，往往也会收获同样的善意回应。

Holding grudges might be self-satisfying, but it can also be psychologically harmful.

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