婚姻经营

婚姻中的激情是否已被平淡所取代？不要甘心只做”有福利的室友”。著名婚姻研究专家约翰·戈特曼的研究表明，通过每日表达赞美与感激、给予肢体亲密、用心道别与重逢、坚持每周约会，只需每周投入三到四小时，就能让婚姻重焕生机、更加幸福持久。

Many parents put their children first. But overfocusing on the children can tax your relationship an leave young adults with no model for their own intimate partnerships.

婚礼的盛大筹备只是起点，真正的婚姻经营才刚刚开始。专家指出，夫妻应重视情感联结与有效沟通，克服防御心理，维系与双方家庭的健康关系，并以追求充实感取代对短暂幸福的执念，方能共筑持久美满的婚姻。

The secrets of making love last through years and decades aren't always obvious, but they show that small things can make a big difference.

随着时间推移，伴侣间的好奇心往往会自然消退，关系陷入无聊与停滞。本文介绍了一句简单却有效的话——”多说一点……”（TMM），以及它在平衡对话、化解冷战、增进了解等方面的实际价值，并提出了谦逊、让话语落地、不为伴侣痛苦负责三个前提条件，帮助伴侣重燃关系活力。

Relationship researcher Eli J. Finkel shares a three-step process to help you identify — and get — what you most want out of your marriage.