自我认同

In her TED Talk, “I’m not your inspiration, thank you very much,” comedian and disability advocate Stella Young explains why “inspiration porn” is such a downer. For Emily McManus, she brought to mind two other TED speakers, and a useful insight.

Some fresh advice on identifying and searching for your own community, from business innovator Nilofer Merchant.

作者被诊断为精神分裂症后，一度以为这改变了她的身份与未来。然而随着时间推移，她学会将自我本质与这一被污名化的诊断标签剥离——通过坚守梦想、铭记自身价值，她最终不再被”精神分裂症”这个词所定义。

作者在街头被老友称为”怪人”后，深入探究了”古怪”的真正含义。文章指出，古怪的人更真实、更自由，不随波逐流、不惧怕他人眼光。三个典型迹象包括：无视潮流、勇于特立独行、招来嫉恨者。而古怪的三大好处则是：社交焦虑更少、内心更自在、拥有原创思维。

Erasing yourself and mirroring your partner's desires is a slippery slope.

Picking yourself up with dignity after a divorce can spare you a world of hurt.

社交媒体时代，被遗弃恐惧在人们的意识层面愈发普遍。这种恐惧源于大脑深处的生存警报，网络关系的脆弱性更会加剧它。适度的被遗弃恐惧有助于珍视关系，而彻底的治愈之道在于建立自我认同——相信自己有价值、值得被爱，从而更充实地活着。

So many of us long to be part of something real. But we’ll need to risk discomfort and criticism and show the world our real selves first, says vulnerability researcher Brené Brown.