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Why people stay stuck in relationships that keep them living on crumbs.

文章探讨了灵魂伴侣与一见钟情等浪漫信念的局限性，从媒体神话的影响、一见钟情的幻觉以及浪漫宿命信念的隐患三个维度，揭示这些理想化观念可能带来的关系困境，并鼓励人们以更理性、脚踏实地的方式寻求真正契合的长期伴侣。

When I ask couples who are monogamous if they have negotiated their monogamy, they look at me with confusion. They think that question should only be for couples who are open.

有效沟通在职场与人际关系中至关重要。本文通过一个员工病假后返岗即遭解雇的真实案例，探讨了沟通失当所带来的负面影响，并提出改善沟通的三大要素：积极倾听、参与对话与付诸行动，帮助个人和团队在不确定性中建立更有效的沟通方式。

市面上充斥着各种约会建议，但许多泛泛而谈的建议不仅毫无用处，有时甚至适得其反。本文梳理了5条常见约会建议的误区，从”嫁对的人”到”欲擒故纵”，指出真正有效的建议必须因人而异，有时反其道而行之才是明智之举。

You may feel helpless when your partner won't work on relationship problems with you, but there’s a lot you can do on your own to create a healthier partnership. 

New research explains why heterosexual women indulge in same-sex performativity.

许多人梦想与比自己更优秀的人相恋，但研究表明，伴侣间的巨大差距往往有害，会引发自卑、不满甚至出轨。追求比自己高出约25%吸引力的伴侣是普遍规律，而适度的小差距在正向情感的滋养下，反而能增进爱意与亲密感。

How do you debate an emotionally-charged topic while keeping your relationships intact? The wisdom of 20th-century psychologist Carl Rogers could help.

A recent study asked a large number of people interested in BDSM where their desires come from. Their replies show how mysterious sexuality can be.