共情

Some people are too easily triggered by the emotions of those close to them, causing them to push hard to fix the other rather than provide what they need.

研究表明，共情不仅是情感体验，更是一种全身性的生理应激反应——当我们对他人的痛苦产生共情时，自身也会进入压力状态，这正是照护者倦怠的根源。与共情不同，慈悲是一种平静连结的神经状态，能在不伤害自身的前提下真正支持他人。文章提供了五步实践建议，帮助我们以慈悲代替共情，更健康地关怀他人。

After a loved one's death, the bereaved are met with sympathy by well-wishers. A new paper deconstructs this emotion and suggests which forms of expression are most comforting.

While it's impossible to "fix" others' emotional struggles, there are practical skills you can learn to help you be more supportive.

Empathy (feeling with) is more likely to produce kindness and the willingness to help when held within a larger field of compassion (feeling for).

仅仅与他人同在，无需言语，便已是一种强大的力量。从对视凝视到谈判研究，证据表明：目光接触能同步大脑活动、拉近心理距离；陌生人的陪伴可减轻痛苦；被看见、被认可的感受，甚至能帮助人们走出极端主义。你积极的在场本身，就足以影响他人的身心状态。

我们正身处一个社交圈日益同质化的时代，”共情赤字”问题愈发突出。本文借格林奇的故事，提出培养共情力的五种方法：保持好奇心、用心倾听、练习慈悲冥想、关注彼此共同点，以及对改变自身信念保持开放。共情如同肌肉，越练越强，它是我们与他人和谐共处的关键。

善于倾听固然重要，但有些人会滥用你的时间和情感能量。本文提出三个维度，帮助你区分真正敞开心扉的人与摆出受害者姿态的操控者：后者通常博取关注、施加愧疚、逃避责任，而前者则接受共情、愿意反馈、展现真实的脆弱。

In Chris Kluwe’s TED Talk, the former NFL punter shares his excitement that augmented reality will soon be everywhere. He focuses on the role it will play in sports — and argues that it will soon allow us all to experience bold new perspectives.

The ability to appreciate that others may feel differently about things than we do and to actually feel things as others do sits at the core of successful relationships.