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心理学家将”控制点”定义为个人对影响自身生活的力量来源的信念。外部控制点者倾向于将生活事件归因于命运和外力，而内部控制点者则相信个人努力决定结果。研究表明，内部控制点与更好的健康、学业及职业成就相关，但两种极端均有其局限。了解自身倾向，有助于我们扬长避短，更好地掌握人生方向。

Not all of us are born with one main interest — and we should see that as our biggest strength, not our weakness, says Emilie Wapnick, a writer, coach, artist (and then some).

Uncovering your micro-motives — that collection of super-specialized things that make your particular heart sing — are key to finding fulfillment and success at work, say social scientists Todd Rose and Ogi Ogas. And there’s a fun way to identify them: observing how you judge others.

每个人都可能用”否认”来逃避令人痛苦的现实。文章通过一位患者与成瘾兄弟之间的故事，探讨否认如何让人深陷困境、耗尽自我。作者介绍了”穿针引线”技巧，帮助人们汇集所有事实、看清全貌，从而突破否认、接受现实、找回对生活的掌控感。

“性爱NPC”是指那些按照社会性爱剧本行事、而非遵从内心真实欲望的人。许多人从未被鼓励了解自身的性兴奋点，文化与媒体正不断”量产”这类角色。最美妙的性体验源于了解自我、坦诚沟通并被伴侣真正倾听。本文提供实用建议，帮助你成为自己性生活中真正的”玩家角色”。

系统性地回避自身感受，会导致一种未被真正活过的人生。不信任内心深层情绪有四大代价：重蹈覆辙、滋生愤怒与怨恨、关系功能失调，以及内心空虚。学会与自己的感受同频，才能真正活出深层自我。

Personal names are intimately connected to a person’s sense of self, relationships, and well-being. What does it mean, then, when someone changes their name?

Whisper it, but obsessive navel-gazing can be satisfying. Problem is, it can also be damaging. Organizational psychologist Tasha Eurich suggests ways to escape the loop of rumination and learn how to move forward for real.

The stories we tell ourselves about others and the world shape what we see and expect. But often the stories are handicapping and harmful. Here's how to recognize and change them.

许多自恋者最初魅力十足，但随着时间推移，与自恋者的关系往往变得越来越单向。本文提供三个步骤，帮助你识别自己是否在否认与自恋者关系中的不健康因素，理解否认背后的心理原因，并最终做出更健康的选择。